Single Guy From Adelaide

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Do you think this sounds like you, or someone you know? Please read on.

My regular personal profile is here, if it interests you.

PERSONALITY

I probably spend too much time in my own head, and it's okay if you're the same. There are so many interesting things to think about, and the world is a fascinating place. I like to talk about things bigger than day-to-day life, rather than engage in gossip about people or local events.

I'm a confident, positive, and outgoing person. I love to make people laugh. My sense of humour might be my best feature, but I know I don't convey it in this profile.

I'm an INTJ, "The Architect". These Myers-Briggs personality types aren't scientifically very sound, but people like them.

I'm a very interesting character, but a normal and sensible person where it matters. I'm not secretly some awkward weirdo who no-one wants, or someone who has social problems. :) I've had more than my fair share of interest from women in my social circles, if that's any gauge.

NEGATIVES

I think it's prudent that I go into some negative personality traits too. I have downsides, like everyone else. This is actually hard to work out, and write. I don't want to just list some trivial negatives, or spin some negatives into positives. I'm a good person and I try to improve myself, so I don't have any big negatives, or anything I think will unduly impact a relationship.

Probably my biggest negative, as people have mentioned it to me, is that I'm very blunt. I just tell people exactly what I think, and that's often not a good thing.

I'm not particularly open to trying new things, in my day-to-day life. Very little impresses me, so I stick with the things I'm comfortable with – people, restaurants, interests, and the like.

From the fact that I'm running this search, it should already be clear that I do things my own way. I'm not at all concerned with tradition or societal norms. I do things no one else tries to do, and I do them until they're complete. This has been my greatest strength, and has made me wildly successful at most things I do. However, it also leads me across all kinds of rocky terrain – like this crazy search you're reading now, that's grown to consume far too much time, money, and reputation. I expect a partner would have to endure some downs, among the ups. I intend to embark on some very big projects in the future. I'm not guaranteeing a quiet life, with our own house and a garden, and a safe nest egg for retirement.

PARTNERSHIP

I'd love to have someone who's educated and informed, and very much wants to connect on an intellectual level. People have been writing to me, to tell me that I'm a sapiosexual – someone who's attracted to intelligence. I've realised I'm only attracted to intelligent women. I don't like labels, but maybe this is a real thing.

I'm not religious. I don't mind what you believe, but if it's a part of your daily life, or your worldview, that might be an issue. I'll leave this up to you.

What kind of a partner would I be? I don't know. I can only really look at the relationships I have with others. I've sorted out my own world now (with the exception of not having found a partner), and I spend a lot of time helping the people around me. It might just be running Scrabble clubs for people, or something insignificant. But I'm also helping all kinds of people who have very different crises in their lives. There's someone in every family who does that, and that person is me. I'll entertain you, and make you laugh, but I really want to provide someone with all the support they need to pursue their own dreams.

EXPERIENCE

Despite my own lack of experience, I realise most people above a certain age have gone beyond holding hands and kissing. I'm just searching for one of the few people who haven't done anything more than that. I'd very much like to have a relationship with someone at the same level as me, in this regard. It's really that simple.

Please make sure you really understand this part. You're welcome to ask, if you have any questions. If not, I'll assume you're on the same page as me, and we can go through this much later on.

I understand that people have had all kinds of different experiences, and have been in all kinds of different circumstances – some very good, some very bad. I'm in no position to judge anyone else. I'm just looking for someone like me, which is very hard to find these days.

AGE

I'm forty-one years old. I have the experience and wisdom of someone older, but I look younger. If you're looking for someone who has their act together, I'll be a good choice. If you're looking for someone to party with, I'm probably not a good choice.

You can be any age, within a few limits: I can't consider teenagers, or anyone who is past the age where we could have a family.

I'm exactly six feet (183cm) tall. Women tend to want to know this.

WHAT WOULD THINGS BE LIKE, TOGETHER?

We can start out as friends. I'm not in a hurry, and a great relationship needs to be built upon a wonderful friendship.

I spend my time doing my projects, and just enjoying good food, company, games, and physical activity. I have all my time to myself, and there are so many places I'd like to go, if I had company.

You could study, work, volunteer, pursue your own projects, or just relax and enjoy life with me.

It would be nice to have a family, and I have the maturity and resources to do that now, but I'm in no hurry. I'm not planning on getting married, but I'm open to it, if it's something a partner wants to do.

(For people from overseas.) Adelaide is the capital of South Australia. It's a cultured, modern city of 1.3m, with temperatures ranging from 10° to 30°. It's ranked as one of the most liveable cities in the world. If we get along, after talking for a while, you can visit. There's lots to do, and we'll have a great time. If things work out, I can arrange for you to stay. (I'll pay for and organise all this.) Australia is a great place to be, and you'll be able to travel home as much as you like, and have guests over constantly, if you wish.

THINKING ABOUT CONTACTING ME?

The number of intelligent women who have the same level of experience as me, is very small. If you're one of them, you'll have my attention. You're not competing against a horde of other women.

I realise this search is unusual. Many women are very hesitant to contact me, even though they very much want to. Talking to a potential partner, in any context, is going to force you to step outside of your comfort zone.

I hope you'll go out on a limb, and contact me. This applies to everyone, but if you're looking for love, you need to actually take some kind of action. If you just wait for someone appropriate to float by, you might be waiting forever.

THE PROCESS

Send me an email. Just a line or two is fine – no need to write me a formal letter. Even better, send me a message on an app. A spontaneous chat in realtime is a great way to get acquainted. Either way, after a while, we can progress to phone calls, and then the occasional video chat. When we're ready, I'll invite you to come and have a holiday with me. I'll organise all this.

I always try to be as generous and flexible as possible, with everyone who wants to engage with me. You're welcome to start your contact anonymously, contact me on behalf of someone else, or begin with questions. Whatever suits you.

However, the idea is to get to know each other. I'm not interested in having a weekend pen pal who never progresses beyond emails, or dealing with people who get attached to me, but aren't sure what they want. I've had many lovely emails from women who changed their mind before I could reply.

If you want to be in a relationship, and you're happy to take the steps above, and get to know me, there's a real chance of things working out. If not, nothing is lost – you just had a friendly chat with a strange guy from Australia. :)

THE SEARCH

Yes, I am an entirely real person, and this is a completely genuine search for love. As long as this site is here, I'm still looking. I'll very clearly update this page when I find someone, as many people are curious.

You might've seen my ads before. I've been searching for a while, as it's taken me a long time to work out how to convey who I am, and what I'm looking for, to visitors. Initially, I tried to do this site anonymously, but that generated very limited response. Later versions were either not clear enough about what I was looking for, or put people off by being tactless. Response is overwhelmingly (though not completely) positive now, but that didn't used to be the case.

Doing something like this is extremely difficult. Trying to get inside the mind of the reader, and paint a picture of myself for them is not easy. This is the best I can do, and I know it's not perfect. Please try to remember the person behind all of this, and try to work out what I'm really like.

People are also curious as to how the search is going. This search has taken quite a while, but in that time, I've had some great conversations with women, and some very promising contacts that almost worked out.

This search is a long and very difficult process in many ways, but I know there's someone like me out there.

Some woman is going to find love with me, and be part of the amazing life I've created for myself. I'm very much looking forward to meeting her. She's out there. All she needs to do is say hello.

THE END

Thanks for reading my site. I hope you've found my search to be interesting. :)

My full Scrabble TV interview is here, if you'd like to watch it.

If you're just a visitor, thank you for reading. Please feel free to leave a message on the guestbook below. If you know someone appropriate, please send this site to them.

CONTACTING ME

Email me at this address.
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Hi Daniel,

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